Things I Will Not Settle For


I've been in several long-term relationships. I was engaged to someone from 2012-2014. Then I dated someone else for less than a year after that. From 2016-2018 roughly, I was in another long-term relationship. After that, I dated someone else very briefly. In 2018 I began my most recent relationship, which ended at the beginning of 2024.

Along this timeline, I realized I didn't have much chance to be single. I never gave those breakups time to heal before jumping into the next one and throwing myself into the new relationship. So I'm enjoying being single now and really leaning into my individuality and what I want.

I want to be firm in the things I want and can't compromise on. I also don't want to jump back into a monogamous relationship too quickly, if ever. I really just want to be sure what I want from a partner, and also, what I don't want.

I'm enumerating that below.

Things I will not settle for:

  • Someone who tries to control what I do, say, or wear
  • Someone who makes mean jokes about me with no indication they're kidding
  • Someone who makes me feel stupid
  • Someone who makes me feel like too much
  • Someone who takes that little light inside away
  • Someone who holds old-fashioned views about purity, being conservative,  dating, or what a woman should do with her body and choices
  • Someone who cannot tolerate my mental illness or doesn't want to
  • Someone who can't be bothered to express their feelings or opinions
  • Someone who is too casual, too nonchalant, too easy-going that they seem uninterested
  • Someone who doesn't want to get married
  • Someone who tries to lie and gaslight me when I know the facts
  • Someone who can't take no for an answer
More that I'm sure I'll think of

Comments

  1. MichelleAugust 28, 2024 at 10:54 AM

    Exactly. Those are good things to remind yourself of and stick to.
    Never allow someone to hurt you in anyway. Anyhow, this is shelly from threads: https://dreaming--arcadia.com/

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